Play recommendations
- Speak consistently from the I-perspective.
- Share thoughts, feelings and inner processes in detail.
- Justify your behaviour with your inner state.
- Tell back-stories and context.
- Steer the conversation back to yourself.
👉 Rule of thumb: Self-revelation before content and relationship.
Risk
Verbal flood, self-centredness, performance – self-revelation tips into self-presentation.
Body language
- Lively, active body language and voice.
- Lots of gestures, often explanatory or embellishing.
- Strong eye contact, looking for resonance.
- Lots of variation between closeness and distance.
- Visible emotional involvement with a strong self-reference.
Signature lines
- "I'm experiencing this as…"
- "For me this feels like…"
- "I noticed that I…"
- "Let me briefly explain what's going on with me…"
- "That really triggers me…"
